At what point does a friendship with a person of the opposite sex cross the line for those that are married? Do we share our struggles and concerns in our personal lives with other people’s husbands and wives?
The response that “We’re just friends!” doesn’t make it right. Husbands and wives have an exclusive right to verbal intimacies with their own spouse. These intimacies with a man are reserved exclusively for his wife, and vice versa. If someone engages a person other than her husband with such matters it takes something away from his wife because the focus is on us rather her.
Keep in mind that even an innocent friendship with another women’s husband can change into an affair. It could happen to any of us. Thinking it won’t happen doesn’t stop it from occuring. Probably very few affairs just happened out of nowhere. They started with a conversation, a shared laugh, lunch or perhaps an intimate verbal moment that should have been exclusively shared with their husband or wife.
Please think about this and guard your thoughts and actions for they could lead to destruction.
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I think it is an individual thing...i guess awareness is the key...checking yourself to make sure your intent is to remain 'just friends'. i do think men and women can be 'just friends' and i also think sometimes those friendships can cross the line.
but perhaps sometimes they cross the line when the partners in the marriage are not meeting each others intimacy needs for one reason or another.
I think we all long to feel connected in some way...perhaps that is all that people are looking for?
thanks for your thoughts and stopping by my blog.
I agree with you that awareness is important. There are risks in just about everything we do in life. A risk is the possibility of suffering a harm or loss. And there are consequences that result. So what are the consequences of an individual’s decision when they cross that line in to adultery? I wonder how many people engaged in an adulterous relationship yesterday alone? What is the cumulative effect of the personal pain and destruction that resulted from all those individual acts of sin?
And think of the children whose homes were broken through marriages destroyed by infidelity? Think of the traumatized children sent emotionally adrift. How many become adults and still act out the anguish because of this disloyalty? Look at the consequences: there is broken trust, emotional wounding, the sting of betrayal, shattered families. One careless act of unfaithfulness leaves in its wake decades of pain and destruction and often generations of brokenness. So you are right awareness is the key. An awareness of a higher moral law, but we have another awareness. That is that we consistently violate that higher law. This is where the notion of guilt comes in. We all have been given a conscious, so we all know right from wrong. What we need to do is take an honest look in the mirror.
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Thanks for taking the time to read and think. I really appreciate this dialogue.
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